The Red Thread of Fate

I am often asked “When did you decide you wanted to adopt?” Truthfully, the answer would be, I always knew. From a young age when other children were playing Mom or Dad to their baby dolls, so was I but all my baby dolls were adopted. I would sometimes change up the scenario and play the older sister that was orphaned and had to take care of her younger siblings.


From a young age I was fascinated with anything adoption or having to do with orphans. One of my first books I remembered reading was Baby Island. I loved this book and acted out this scenario of being lost on an Island having to care for a handful of babies.


The Boxcar Children was also a favorite. I remember once when I was very young, my cousins and I found an abandoned trucking shell. This became our ‘boxcar’. I have such vivid memories of this experience I can still feel the dust in the dirt lot that became our playground for months.

In 1974 I was 7 years old, and a small movie came out titled Mixed Company. I loved this film, it was about a family that adopted several children with various backgrounds. Although I was only 7, and have not heard of the movie since, it has stayed with me.


When I was in high school I abandoned the idea of having children altogether, it wasn’t until college that started thinking about it and began collecting articles about adoption. When Georges and I got together, we discussed adoption right away (biological children wasn’t out of the picture). We agreed that we would like to adopt at least one child.

I know that adoption was something that I was meant to do. So my answer to the Question “When did you decide you wanted to adopt?” would be answered with a question.”When did you decide to become a biological parent?” I have always known my children were OUT THERE.


There is a great Chinese Proverb:

 An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet regardless of time, place or circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle but will never break.


2 thoughts on “The Red Thread of Fate

  1. Beautiful Carrie. The proverb must be the origin of the children’s book ‘the invisible thread’ which is about the connection between a parent & child when they are apart. I like to send a copy of this book off with any of my kids who have to move on from my care. I hope that in some way it helps them to know that I am always & forever connected to them.

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