I haven’t posted for 2 weeks. My words have been saved up, and channeled for the most important thing I have ever written. 1.5 weeks ago I lost my bestfriend, my kids lost their Tia and the world lost a bright star. More than anyone, the loss will be felt by the two beautiful girls that Annette left behind.
I could fill a novel with what Annette gave to the world, or the special memories I have of her, but for now…I will just post the words that I spoke that day…
I thought I was going to pass out (literally, the room began to close in on me) when I approached the microphone to share my thoughts of beautiful Nettie the Mermaid (the name our friend Beth has given her).
I first met Annette almost 10 years ago while working at Whole Foods together. We became fast friends and I fell in love with her giving spirit right away.
One Christmas, while at Whole Foods when we found out that there was no money for a Christmas work party, Annette got on the phone and called every vendor should could and before we knew it, she had goody bags for every team member at the store. There were so many things donated that it took several days just to pull the bags together!
As a friend, she always had an open ear and heart …I can still hear her encouraging and affirming words: “I get it”, or “Oh I totally get it”! She had an easy spirit that people were attracted to, and able to open up to easily.
A few weeks ago, I had to take my 16 year old dog to the vet to be put down. I was alone, and when I had said my peace, and turned to leave, I opened the door and there was my Annette! Standing there with open arms! Always knowing just when those around her needed her the most.
She was masterful at respect…for people, animals and the earth. She walked her talk, being a vegetarian, and honoring those of diversity and different cultures.
It was not a surprise to anyone when she chose social work as her major at NCState. The projects that she worked on during that time, and soon after will leave a footprint on the hearts of the people she touched forever. Whether it was the 5 weeks she spent in Guatemala helping the children of Lake Aitilan, the month she spent in Costa Rica working with The Whole Planet Foundation or her work with the women at the Raleigh Rescue Mission, She was following her heart and it always led her to helping others.
Soon after coming home from Guatemala, there was a mudslide in the town that Annette had worked in, she put together a photography exhibit, and was able to raise almost $2000 in just 2 hours that went to the rebuilding of a medical clinic. Annette was never one to stand by when there was something she could do.
Annette was constantly bringing home dying plants that she would rescue and add to her garden, I was constantly in awe of her garden where she was able to return these plants and flowers to full bloom in just a few months or weeks.
But what Annette did best, was being a Mom…she nailed it! She always told me that she didn’t plan to get married, that was until she met Mark of course, he was able to change her mind, and most of all her heart, and before they knew it they had started their beautiful little family together. The two happiest days of her life were the days that Hazel and Bella were born. Every decision that she made was in the interest of her girls. She was raising them to be smart, independent girls never afraid to get a little dirty.
When things got difficult Annette would always say: “Everything happens for a reason, what is meant to be, will be …and it will all work out for the best.”
So when you’re tempted to ask “Why”, or say, life is unfair when we think of this tragedy, instead…let us celebrate Annette!
Annette taught us that the heart is infinite and all inclusive! I challenge you to take the gifts that she has given us and open your heart a little more….give a smile, give of your time, give of your friendship.
Think of this beautiful barefoot free spirit…`
And remember her saying “Wild women don’t get the blues…”