Vanilla Care, Chocolate Hair. I can’t take credit for these words, it’s actually a really great blog that teaches white Mama’s how to care for black hair.
When T & Bug came to us, Bug’s hair was a braided mess, and T’s hair was starting to ‘lock up’. Georges took T and had his hair cut real short. That was easy.
I posted on facebook asking for advice on how to take out the braids. One of my great friends posted a website that takes you through how to take out the braids. I read several blogs and one thing that I learned is just how important the care of black hair is. What I mean by that is how other ‘Mama’s’ will judge the care of your little girl, by the care of her hair (correct me if I am wrong). So this new information just added to the pressure of learning how to do Bug’s hair.
I took a trip to Target and was completely overwhelmed by all the products, I got some great advice from another mama that saw the bewildered look on this white mama’s face.
I washed and conditioned Bug’s hair, then I brushed it into a ‘poof’ on top of her head and finished it with a bow. Since then I have switched between two poofs and one poof.
I have had several Moms tell me how much work it is if it’s not braided and I ought to just braid it. To be honest, I enjoy the time we spend every morning brushing out her hair, as she brushes her baby-dolls hair.
On the first visitation with Bugs bio-mom, she seemed concerned that Bug’s hair was not in braids. On the second visit she actually brought beads and bands to braid her hair during the visit. I don’t know if I am doing something that is viewed ‘wrong’, but as I said the time I spend brushing out Bug’s beautiful ‘cotton candy’ hair is time that I love, how can that be wrong?